Can you and I make a BIG difference together?


I'm passionate about raising awareness of the ways couples can prepare for, and be supported through, early parenthood - and the difference this can make for them and their whole family. Are you passionate about this too?

Research tells us parents who are prepared for parenthood:

  • Have a better birth experience, including a reduced risk for experiencing Birth Trauma.
  • Adjust more quickly and cope better in the postpartum period.
  • Are happier with their partner and have a reduced risk for relationship problems, including Domestic Violence.
  • Have better mental and emotional health and wellbeing, including lower risk for Perinatal Mood Disorders including anxiety and depression.

And are MORE likely to be able to create the family of their dreams!

Parenthood is an adventure into the unknown, so let's do what we can to prepare parents for it! If you'd like to support the parents in your community or organisation, I'd love to hear from you. Please connect with me below.

A revelation.
— Nicole Moore, Birth into Being

Please note: Elly's event calendar is almost fully booked for January, August, September and October 2018.


Due to demand, Elly is excited to be running the very first LIVE Becoming Us Facilitator training in Sydney, 10-12th August 2018.
To register your interest, or to inquire about other cities, please enter your details here:

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A little about Elly...

Elly is becoming known worldwide as the 'Parenthood Pioneer' for her award winning research and evidence based book Becoming Us, which describes a world first model of the transition into parenthood.

Elly has been described as "like Brene Brown but for new parents." A former Relationship Counsellor, independent researcher and writer, Elly is also an experienced Workshop Facilitator. Because of this, Elly's audiences come away with awareness, inspiration and practical skills that can make a meaningful difference. Just as importantly, participants have a sense of their value, a renewed sense of purpose for the important work they do - and discover the potential of it for their clients.

Elly's presentations have been described as "eye opening, inspiring and a wake-up call."


Most Requested Topics:


This signature talk walks you through Elly’s groundbreaking and award-winning research into the challenging transition into parenthood. Did you know 92% of parents report increased conflict in the first year after baby? Or that 67% report a decline in relationship satisfaction in the first three? Elly has discovered that these statistics obscure a deeper truth: there are stages in the transition into parenthood and challenges in each stage that parents need to be equipped for. In this presentation that can be tailored to parents, parenthood professionals or corporations, Elly shares her biggest discoveries: that while the vulnerabilities of early parenthood can distance partners, there are ways to bring them closer together than ever. 


We all know about parent/infant bonding, but Neuroplastic research tells us partners are ripe for becoming more securely bonded to each other during birth and the early postpartum period. There are considerable long term benefits to whole family bonding. In this presentation for birth and health professionals, discover ways to support the couple connection so your clients love you almost as much as they love each other!


One in 7 mothers suffer from Postpartum Depression. Postpartum Anxiety is proving to be an even bigger issue with 33% of mothers reporting symptoms. A traumatic birth increases risk for a Perinatal Mood Disorder by 75%. In this presentation, birth, health and mental health professionals can learn the contributing factors, know how to minimise risks and provide solutions, support and resources to give couples the best start for their family.


It's a lesser known fact that 1 in 10 fathers suffer from Postpartum Depression and 17% suffer from Postpartum Anxiety. This presentation for upper and middle managers reveals the contributing factors, the warning signs to be aware of, ways to minimise risk and support coping so dad can be the man he wants to be for himself and his family.

Elly's recent presentations:

Keynote Speaker, Northwest Area Childbirth Educators Forum, Portland, Oregon 2017
National Christian Family Conference, Sydney 2015
The Mother Conference, Sydney 2015
The Marce Australasia Conference, Adelaide, 2015
Keynote Speaker, Making Motherhood Real Conference, Sydney 2015
Marce International Society Conference, Swansea, Wales 2014
Birthlight International Conference, Cambridge, UK 2014
Parenting 2.0 Conference, Dublin, Ireland 2014
Postpartum Support International Conference, North Carolina, USA 2014
PACFA/CAPA/AARC Joint Conference, Sydney 2014


Watch Elly speak about modern families as a Relationship Expert for Sydney's Channel 10 News, below (3 mins):


To watch Elly's Dublin presentation, click on the video below (12 mins):


Feedback from Event Conveners:

Elly was a joy to work with. It was easy to tell how much work had gone into the content and flow of her presentation, which allowed for real-time practice and application and attendees came away with tools they could use immediately. This feedback from one or our participants sums it up best: “This presentation was a gift and gave new breath to the work we do. Thank you so much for bringing Elly to us!
— Barb Buckner Suarez, President, Northwest Area Childbirth Educators Forum, Portland OR
Senior health professionals can be a tough audience. Through her attention to content, evidence based research and lived professional and personal experience, Elly has the ability to connect. An engaging presenter, using a variety of presentation techniques, Elly adds light and shade to what can be difficult topics. It’s clear she loves her work, presenting with integrity, passion and a generous sharing of herself.
— Sue Hawkins, CEO, Your Pregnancy Matters, Sydney, Australia
Elly is one of the best presenters on family issues I have heard. Her presentations are solidly grounded in research but shaped by experience and richly coloured with emotion and humour. She continues to make a huge contribution to this arena. Her passion and commitment are commendable.
— Trafford Fischer, Co-Convener, National Christian Family Conference, Sydney, Australia
Elly’s presentation highlighted so many areas of unknown for parents that can be inadvertently overlooked in the rush to provide the best pregnancy and labour care. Her talk was clinically spot on and personally enlightening. Since hearing her speak I have recommended her book to my husband!
— Ruth King, Midwifery Advisor, Education Unit, Australian College of Midwives, Sydney

Connect with me and let's make a difference!

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Feedback from Event Participants:

Best presentation I have attended in years! The facilitation was a highlight: some teaching and videos, then guided conversation, interaction and practice. Best of all was Elly, filled with hope and help for families that we can practically use. Having her facilitate the conference was far better than just hearing a speaker. Brilliant!
— Kimberly Bepler, Owner ABC Doula Service, Portland, Oregon
Elly speaks a truth that comes straight from the heart, based on “real world” experience and backed up with thorough research. Her message is essential for the emotional health of new parents of today and for the emotional maturity of future generations.
— Tara Green, Psychotherapist and Counselling Supervisor, Sydney
I really enjoyed benefiting so generously from your research and application. Antenatal intervention is so important and your presentation has helped me realise just how protective it is. This has been a wake up call.
— Rosemary McIlgorm, Childbirth Educator/Midwife & Psychodynamic Counsellor, Sydney
Your presentation alerted me to the gaps between expectations and the experiences of newborn families. I appreciated knowing what subjects to raise and why. By fearlessly raising the more challenging aspects of family life, it encourages me to do so too. Your information is a revelation.
— Nicole Moore, Birth into Being, NSW North Coast
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