Why is parenthood an adventure?
Unless you've grown up with a baby in your house, most of us don't have any real experience of what life as a new parent is actually like. And it can be very different to how it's portrayed in movies, on TV or Instagram. More, ummm....real.
So becoming parents, for most couples, is like a leap of faith.
Which is the beginning of any worthwhile adventure.
Added to that, you're likely to find there's information and support for your pregnancy journey, and information and support for parenting, but at some point in your baby's first year you're also likely to discover something else: there's a big gap in information and support for parenthood.
But aren't parenthood and parenting the same thing? I thought so too, at first. And then I discovered:
Parenting is about your relationship with your baby. Feeding, settling, changing. Learning their signals for hunger, tiredness and affection, that sort of thing. It's about figuring out and nurturing your little one as they grow through their different stages (newborn, baby, toddler, teen). You’ll probably find this stuff is actually pretty straight forward. A lot of it is instinct or common sense. And for the bits that aren’t, there’s plenty of great books, resources and professionals to guide you.
Parenthood, on the other hand, is about you, your partner and the new life you’re creating together. It's about figuring things out and nurturing yourself and each other as you grow as both parents. I call it "becoming us".
Becoming us is things like:
- Becoming confident as your life changes and becomes a new kind of life in so many ways.
- Working out what you and your partner need so you can meet all of your baby's needs.
- Enlisting the support of family, friends and in-laws and negotiating new boundaries in this time of change and transition.
- Knowing how to work our new differences with your partner, so you can gently guide your children in the same direction, even if you have very different backgrounds or beliefs.
And this stuff isn't so straightforward. And there's not much preparation, guidance or support through it. Until now.
Click on the video below for more.