Becoming a parent these days is so different from how our parents did it. So much of it is figuring things out as you go. Feeling lost or stuck at times and then at others, looking back with wonder to see how far you've come. It can feel like uncharted territory. Scary, but exciting too. That's how it was for me.

Now, in my own journey to forge a better way for new families, I have been excited to discover so many wonderful organisations, to meet such dedicated people in this field and have been honoured to have opportunities to share my, our, story in the hope it benefits others.

Some of my most rewarding experiences so far:

Dear Elly.jpg

Now it feels like life has come full circle. I’m grateful for these opportunities to meet with professionals from all over the world. Many have shared with me they’re aware of the parenthood gap, but often unsure what they can do about it. I believe the professionals who are doing this vital work are pioneers in the future of parenthood preparation. My hope is to bridge the gap for professionals, as well as for parents, through my Becoming Us online training for professionals

Click on the video below to watch Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Ernesto Segismundo Jr. review Becoming Us.




Thanks to my very lovely and understanding family, I’m available to travel just a couple of times each year. If you’d like me to visit your organisation to deliver a keynote speech or run a workshop to support the "becoming" families near you, please email To find out more, please see my events page.

More information and access to my book:

Becoming Us, 8 Steps to Grow a Family that Thrives has been endorsed in Australia by COPE, the Centre of Perinatal Excellence and in North America by CAPPA, The Childbirth and Postpartum Professional Association. I'm honoured that Becoming Us has also been included in an anthology of important books by APPPAH, the Association for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Health.

Becoming Us is available on If you prefer the e-book, the Australian and New Zealand kindle version here and if you’re in North America, you can find the kindle version here.

It takes a village to raise a Parenthood Pioneer. I am grateful to the following organisations:

Becoming Us connects us with our vulnerability, our strength, our normality, our humanity, both a guide and a companion through the new parenting road.
— Christina Marreiros da Cuna, Psychologist, Portugal
Elly is the Parenthood Tour Guide.
— Shannon Armitage, Center for Life Transitions, Seattle, Washington
I call her the Family Whisperer
— Connie Livingston, Past President, International Childbirth Education Association, Dayton, Ohio